środa, 29 stycznia 2014

Positive psychology

"People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be”
                                                               Abraham Lincoln

There is enough in this world for every man's need, but not for every man's greed.

Martin Seligman – father of positive psychology belives that 60% of our happiness is determined by our genetics and environment. 40% of our happiness is up to us, and this is what we should be focused.

How to be happy, based on thousand of studies:
  • Joy is contagious, so surround yourself with happy people.
  • Appreciate simple pleasures.
  • If you succeed in something, prise yourself, talk about it and celebrate.
  • Cultivate a happy thought and then smile about it.
  • Give attention to smaller victories. If we take time to notice the things that go right, we are getting a lot of little rewards throughout the day.
  • Just trying to be happy can boost your emotional well-being. Thouse who actively tried to feel happier in the studies, reported the highest level of positive moods.
  • Doing good for others in return does some good for the do-gooders themselves. There is a lot of benefits associated with altruism. People who volunteered or even do little good gestures for others, are happier and experience better phisical health and less depression.
  • Think about yourself as a happy person.
  • Those who take part in substantial conversation and less in trivial chit chat experience more feelings of satisfction and as a result they are happier.
  • Spending money on others has more direct impact on happiness than spending it on yourself.
  • Make point to listen. Do not block the conversation with your distracting thoughts.
  • Demonstrate confidence and respect for youself and others.
  • Look on the bright side, no metter what.
  • Maintain peronal relationships with people.
  • Belive that missfortune and defeat is just temporary.
  • Smile, tell people nice things.
  • Be kind to someone you dislike, but make sure that it did not cause you pain.
  • Try to be good for the world, but remember you are the most important!!!